Gina Molinari yoga, wellness, travel and coaching
The Comparison Game
I've been alive for 30 years and 1 day! I celebrated by going about a completely normal Monday, but consciously and without telling myself "you should be doing [thing]". Well, I did also have some triple chocolate cake for dessert, but that's pretty standard anyway.
This is a big year, a third decade of life. Twenties were an era of exponential growth. The person I was at 22 would not even recognize my 29 year old self. Thirties are for stepping back and saying to myself, "Yea, I know some stuff now. How can I put it to action?" and starting to form a life that is really aligned with who I am.
People I grew up with are approaching their thirties and starting families. Others are across the world blogging from under palm trees. I spent a lot of time holding my life up to theirs and making comparisons and judgments. These days, I finally feel content with where my feet are and I know it to be the starting point for where I'll go next. Always and forever.
We all play this nasty comparison game with ourselves. On social media we see photos of friends and complete strangers living out the life of our dreams. During the holidays we hear about friends who were gifted that fancy new technology. Don't even get me started with the engagements that pop up in the winter season. When we allow our monkey minds to compare our lives to the highlight reels of others, it's completely toxic.
It doesn't have to be that way.
When we find ourselves grounded, confident, and worthy, we can shift our views from judgment/comparison to inspiration. Seeing someone living outside of the box we are see ourselves trapped in stimulates us to wonder how can we move outside of our own limitations. When done in a mindful and healthy way, comparison can become motivation and a catalyst for expansion. First, we must feel safe and sure in our own footprints though. From there, anything is possible.
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